I've never really officially established in my mind, what I am actually looking FOR in a boyfriend. I know what I don't want, but I've never thought about qualities I want. I might as well make my list public, it doesn't really matter.
First of all, I need someone who will support me. Even if they don't support the types of things I believe in (atheism, individualism, etc), as long as they support ME. Essentially, someone who will comfort me and be my shoulder to cry on.
I think the next important thing is someone I can trust. I feel like this is pretty generic, but I can't have a boyfriend I can't tell things to.
Someone who is spontaneous. I am not spontaneous at all, and I admire people who are. I want someone who will be like "Let's do this thing, now." or be like "Okay, I am coming over right now" or just show up un-announced.
Someone confident. I am not confident. I need someone confident in my life to pull me through to become as such.
Someone funny. You need to be able to make me laugh...
If I find someone with all of those qualities I am set.
Actually, no. I know that people all of the time are like "I don't care what someone looks like, I care about their personality". Wrong. wrong. WRONG. Okay, maybe some people don't, but I think most people do, even just a little bit.
Sure, I would take an average looking nice guy over an attractive jerk, but I do have standards. It sounds bad, but there are some people I just will not date, no matter how nice and funny they are, if they are unattractive. I think some key qualities I look for are: nice non-greasy hair, clean, nice eyes, at least an average body, taller than me, doesn't smell horrible.
I mean generally, those are pretty easy. I can be lenient about some things, but I am not going to date somebody that I can't imagine putting my hands on. Just saying.
Some other things that aren't necessary, but would be nice are having common interests like philosophy, running, the gym, politics, psychology, law, TV shows. Its not necessary, but it helps. I don't want to be like twins though, but I can't not have things in common.
It would be really nice though, especially for a long-term partner (not that, that's what I am looking for), but someone who eats as healthy as me. Like I can't live with someone who eats unhealthily all the time. Or at least can't eat meals with. Being healthy like working out or running would be ideal to. I don't know if I am looking for a "running buddy" though. I like running alone. It's just health is really important to me.
Some things I really cannot tolerate are: alcoholism, sure occasional drinking I don't care about, but if you are addicted, GTFO. Someone who doesn't respect anyone. I understand a lack of respect for some, even most people, but you need to respect some people. I can't tolerate people who are mean/jerks, people who won't talk to you, or guys that are push-overs.
Turn Ons: Nice eyes (dark blue please), nice hair (any natural colour, nice style), tattoos are a turn on, taller than me, more muscular than me, nice smile, ties, vests, jeans
Turn Offs: Piercings, of any kind. I hate guys with piercings. Eyebrow: Maybe, otherwise, ew. Guys that have HUGE biceps but no leg muscle (dude, it's called train your legs), super skinny guys, super fat guys, short guys, baggy ass pants, face tattoos, most facial hair (depends on the person though)
I know this sounds picky, but I think it's a good idea to have some clue of what type of guy to look for.
In general though, I just want a nice guy that will respect me, that is funny, someone that will take those "first moves" and isn't shy about it and someone who will just cuddle me forever, k?
What inspired this was me laying in bed, right now, and I put my head on my pillow in a weird way, that felt like it was on someone's shoulder. I am really tired right now because I ran 25km today, and so I just had the initial thought "I wish I had a boyfriend who would comfort me after runs when I am too tired to move.". That's pretty weird, I suppose, but it's true. I just want a guy that will come over after my run (after I've showered of course... or during my shower ;)) and then will just cuddle with me and watch movies until I fall asleep because I am exhausted from burning an insane amount of calories.
Let's just hope someone out there is like this.
First of all, I need someone who will support me. Even if they don't support the types of things I believe in (atheism, individualism, etc), as long as they support ME. Essentially, someone who will comfort me and be my shoulder to cry on.
I think the next important thing is someone I can trust. I feel like this is pretty generic, but I can't have a boyfriend I can't tell things to.
Someone who is spontaneous. I am not spontaneous at all, and I admire people who are. I want someone who will be like "Let's do this thing, now." or be like "Okay, I am coming over right now" or just show up un-announced.
Someone confident. I am not confident. I need someone confident in my life to pull me through to become as such.
Someone funny. You need to be able to make me laugh...
If I find someone with all of those qualities I am set.
Actually, no. I know that people all of the time are like "I don't care what someone looks like, I care about their personality". Wrong. wrong. WRONG. Okay, maybe some people don't, but I think most people do, even just a little bit.
Sure, I would take an average looking nice guy over an attractive jerk, but I do have standards. It sounds bad, but there are some people I just will not date, no matter how nice and funny they are, if they are unattractive. I think some key qualities I look for are: nice non-greasy hair, clean, nice eyes, at least an average body, taller than me, doesn't smell horrible.
I mean generally, those are pretty easy. I can be lenient about some things, but I am not going to date somebody that I can't imagine putting my hands on. Just saying.
Some other things that aren't necessary, but would be nice are having common interests like philosophy, running, the gym, politics, psychology, law, TV shows. Its not necessary, but it helps. I don't want to be like twins though, but I can't not have things in common.
It would be really nice though, especially for a long-term partner (not that, that's what I am looking for), but someone who eats as healthy as me. Like I can't live with someone who eats unhealthily all the time. Or at least can't eat meals with. Being healthy like working out or running would be ideal to. I don't know if I am looking for a "running buddy" though. I like running alone. It's just health is really important to me.
Some things I really cannot tolerate are: alcoholism, sure occasional drinking I don't care about, but if you are addicted, GTFO. Someone who doesn't respect anyone. I understand a lack of respect for some, even most people, but you need to respect some people. I can't tolerate people who are mean/jerks, people who won't talk to you, or guys that are push-overs.
Turn Ons: Nice eyes (dark blue please), nice hair (any natural colour, nice style), tattoos are a turn on, taller than me, more muscular than me, nice smile, ties, vests, jeans
Turn Offs: Piercings, of any kind. I hate guys with piercings. Eyebrow: Maybe, otherwise, ew. Guys that have HUGE biceps but no leg muscle (dude, it's called train your legs), super skinny guys, super fat guys, short guys, baggy ass pants, face tattoos, most facial hair (depends on the person though)
I know this sounds picky, but I think it's a good idea to have some clue of what type of guy to look for.
In general though, I just want a nice guy that will respect me, that is funny, someone that will take those "first moves" and isn't shy about it and someone who will just cuddle me forever, k?
What inspired this was me laying in bed, right now, and I put my head on my pillow in a weird way, that felt like it was on someone's shoulder. I am really tired right now because I ran 25km today, and so I just had the initial thought "I wish I had a boyfriend who would comfort me after runs when I am too tired to move.". That's pretty weird, I suppose, but it's true. I just want a guy that will come over after my run (after I've showered of course... or during my shower ;)) and then will just cuddle with me and watch movies until I fall asleep because I am exhausted from burning an insane amount of calories.
Let's just hope someone out there is like this.
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