Letting go of smother (poem)

“Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”

― Deborah Reber

Your child is going off into the world,
let go.
The hardest part is to come,
The hard work is done.
Nature shows us the natural ability to let go.
Trees change, birds part, grass grows;
Life goes on.
Just let go.

My mother is having the hardest time letting go of me.
I push her away and she just will not leave me be.

This is harder for me than the average person.
She is a single mother of one;
I am her only child.
She has no husband to go back to,
No younger child to pester,
nothing.

People always say that you will want to go back to visit;
I refuse to be apart of the boomerang generation.

I do not want to live in this house.

This is not my house, this is her house. I am a guest here now, even though I haven't left.

I do not need someone hovering over me and telling me
"Do not buy a car, you can not afford it!"
"Do not go out into the dark!"
"Wash the dishes!"
 I need someone to                                   l       e      t                    g      o

Let me make my own mistakes.

Let me go.
I am not yours;
I was never yours.

I was never yours.
You gave me life but you do not own me.
I am not your sim that you can use in real life.

I have my own thoughts which are completely different from yours.

You are theist, 

I am atheist.

You are frugal,

I am not.

You are old,

I am not.

You are spiritual,

I am not.

You are uneducated,

I am not.

But the thing is, I was born in October 1995. 

I am not 18 until the end of October.

Not a legal adult? The law should not matter.

She thinks since I am not legal,

she can still be able to dictate my life.

From 5 hours away.

Your essence is not even of a mother.

It is of a daughter,

telling her elderly mother to stay away from danger.

I say 'I know what I am doing'

But my mother-daughter doesn't trust me.

No trust. 

The last time I needed someone out of my life was 2011.

The 'friend' who just had to end.

But 'mother' has no end. 

But with an 's' it could be smother.

No carnations for the smother.

No letters.

Sometimes letting go requires a push.

I just hope it is not me pushing myself

at the edge.

__________________________________________________________________________________________

I am going to university this fall and my mother is having the hardest time not comprehending that she does not control me. 

Fuck me

Hello there cliff. You're looking pretty sexy at this point in time.

Polygamy

I am not a polygamist but I think polygamy should be legalized.

I understand within some cultures polygamy has been the epicentre for sexual assaults, children being treated unfairly and children being ignored, but let's disregard that for the simple argument that not all people are like that.

Some cultures having polyandry, polygamy or polygyny are justified. Cultures that aren't as developed, or in the past, having multiple husbands or multiple wives is helpful to the household. Having multiple wives is good to have many children to help with work and populate. Having multiple husbands is good so they can go out and earn money and do hard labour to earn more money and have a rich family.

But I am not even going to linger on that point either. I'm talking about Western cultures that are highly developed.

Let's say your next door neighbour had 5 wives. What is wrong with that? A man treats his 5 wives nicely, most of the wives have 1 or 2 kids. What is wrong there? Everyone is respected, everyone raises the children.

What is actually wrong with it?

The average person will just say "It's not normal".
Neither was gay marriage, but guess what? We have that.

Some people may say "Well now there isn't enough women for everyone!"
Homosexual relations can also do that to the population. But guess what? We have that.

Politically speaking some people may say that new divorce and child custody laws will have to be developed.
Lawmakers should just lawmake. Easy. It's your job. This is why we have a supreme court. New laws have to come with societal change.

Of course if a polygamist family has things like sexual abuse, mistreated children or spouses, that should just be dealt with like any other goddam family. Taken to court, children taken away, counselling, divorce. It's not rocket science. It's an easy sociological and law concept. If one wife wants to divorce her husband or one husband wants to divorce his wife: let them divorce. Child custody should be shared between the two parents of the children. The other spouses shouldn't get a "time share" of the child, except when the child is with the husband or wife where the other spouses are.

I don't understand why people find polygamy wrong. It's like some gross concept to most people. Homosexuality was like this too.

Actually part of the reason why people find polygamy wrong is because it seems unnatural and because there are so many TV shows and TV segments about polygamist families that went wrong because of abuse within the household. Not all families are like this. Can I also mention that even "normal" families have abuse in them? I've seen these TV segments, children from these homes come out and say that their home was abusive and their parents were unsupportive and there were too many kids. I do understand how one instance like this is abusive, but not all homes like this are the same.

I don't even think polygamy has to be about kids. If a man wants to have relations with 2 or 3 women and be legally married and live in the same house with all of them, and they are agreeable, than it should be fine.

Simple as that.

End of story.

Any problem with polygamy that comes up is easily solvable but society is just to dumb and lazy to solve it.

Legalize polygamy.

That is all.