#11 30 Day Writing Challenge- My Family

Day 11! Woooo!

My family.

My family is super small. I'll start with my mom's side.

So there is my mom who was born in 1954, and she is the only person in my family I live with. She has two brothers, both not-married and divorced. One of my uncles has 2 kids, one is 10 and the other is in his 30's. The 10 year old is one of the closest members of my family, along with my mom.

My grandma was born in 1917 and she is still alive. My grandfather lived from 1918-1994, he passed away the year before I was born.

Other than this, I have several very distance cousins, some in Arizona, Florida, etc. I have a Great Aunt in Montreal, Canada.

My Dad's Side. My Dad lived from 1950-2007 and passed away with cancer. He had a brother who also passed away in 2007, but was 13 years older than him. He has a sister, my aunt, who is married and alive and she has 2 kids, and her kids have a total of 3 kids. So I have 5 cousins there. My uncle who passed away had 3 sons and they all had kids and are married. One of the sons has 3 kids, and I used to be really close to them as kids.

I never met my grandparents since they passed away like 10 years before I was born.

My dad also had 2 other daughters in his first marriage, and they are 15 years older than me (they're twins). One of them has a kid, so I am technically a half-aunt, although I haven't seen my sisters since the funeral.

I rarely see my Dad's family anymore, since my parents divorced before he passed away. The last time I saw them was a few years ago at my cousin's wedding, in 2009 or 2010. I see my aunt maybe once a year.

All of the family on my mom's side that I mentioned (other than the distant cousins and my uncle's older son) live in the same city I do.

I am not big on family. I think that society is beyond the bonds of family. At least I am. There are quite a few family members I have just cut off from my life. I think it is weird to do favours for people you don't like, and to hang out with people you don't like. I don't know. Family just isn't important to me.

Polygamy

I am not a polygamist but I think polygamy should be legalized.

I understand within some cultures polygamy has been the epicentre for sexual assaults, children being treated unfairly and children being ignored, but let's disregard that for the simple argument that not all people are like that.

Some cultures having polyandry, polygamy or polygyny are justified. Cultures that aren't as developed, or in the past, having multiple husbands or multiple wives is helpful to the household. Having multiple wives is good to have many children to help with work and populate. Having multiple husbands is good so they can go out and earn money and do hard labour to earn more money and have a rich family.

But I am not even going to linger on that point either. I'm talking about Western cultures that are highly developed.

Let's say your next door neighbour had 5 wives. What is wrong with that? A man treats his 5 wives nicely, most of the wives have 1 or 2 kids. What is wrong there? Everyone is respected, everyone raises the children.

What is actually wrong with it?

The average person will just say "It's not normal".
Neither was gay marriage, but guess what? We have that.

Some people may say "Well now there isn't enough women for everyone!"
Homosexual relations can also do that to the population. But guess what? We have that.

Politically speaking some people may say that new divorce and child custody laws will have to be developed.
Lawmakers should just lawmake. Easy. It's your job. This is why we have a supreme court. New laws have to come with societal change.

Of course if a polygamist family has things like sexual abuse, mistreated children or spouses, that should just be dealt with like any other goddam family. Taken to court, children taken away, counselling, divorce. It's not rocket science. It's an easy sociological and law concept. If one wife wants to divorce her husband or one husband wants to divorce his wife: let them divorce. Child custody should be shared between the two parents of the children. The other spouses shouldn't get a "time share" of the child, except when the child is with the husband or wife where the other spouses are.

I don't understand why people find polygamy wrong. It's like some gross concept to most people. Homosexuality was like this too.

Actually part of the reason why people find polygamy wrong is because it seems unnatural and because there are so many TV shows and TV segments about polygamist families that went wrong because of abuse within the household. Not all families are like this. Can I also mention that even "normal" families have abuse in them? I've seen these TV segments, children from these homes come out and say that their home was abusive and their parents were unsupportive and there were too many kids. I do understand how one instance like this is abusive, but not all homes like this are the same.

I don't even think polygamy has to be about kids. If a man wants to have relations with 2 or 3 women and be legally married and live in the same house with all of them, and they are agreeable, than it should be fine.

Simple as that.

End of story.

Any problem with polygamy that comes up is easily solvable but society is just to dumb and lazy to solve it.

Legalize polygamy.

That is all.