Okay. Let's just pause and think for just a moment.
A common thread of thought is that pornography causes aggression towards women, primarily.
Let's look at the facts: in many pornographic videos women are humiliated, dominated, put in bondage, fucked against their will and seem to enjoy it.
If women consent to these acts with understanding of the consequences of being filmed, identified and are aware of what acts will occur, I don't see any issue here with women's rights and whatnot. The only time this is a little iffy is when women enter pornography to be tricked into doing more than they bargained, which does occur according to a few documentaries I have watched. As long as the words of the women involved are respected and heard, there should be no problem. If halfway through a video the woman says "stop" this should also be respected. These are all no-brainers. But if what we do in the bedroom is private and nobody else gets a say, it being filmed shouldn't be an issue if the woman is consenting.
The second issue brought up with this violent pornography is whether or not it affects society. My opinion is that it does. But not in the way that is first recognized. It is not like people are tied to trees everywhere with people dressed up like cops fucking them. Not all porns actually happen like exactly what they are. That is the actual problem. Men and women get the idea that pornography is a reality. Especially if they begin watching porn before having sex. Men expect women to be thin with big boobs, removed labia, hairless everywhere, be willing to do anal, oral, be dominated, etc. Women expect men to be hung, fit, strong, dominating, etc.
That is the only problem that I see arising. But it is not coming from nowhere. The hair shaving for both men and women is a pain in the ass, and pretty much unnecessary. I read a statistic that only about 1/5 of young people are shaved. So it is not necessarily as common as seen in porn.
But the expected roles and acts for both men and women to commit, honestly, that's for couples to decide on. Sex between two people can be violent, can be passionate, I don't see pornography translating to a man's brain to think it is completely okay to tie up, choke and call a girl a "slut" on the first time. Unless that is what they both say they want on their first time having sex together, then why not.
I feel like pornography does normalize aggression in sex to those exposed to it. To people not exposed to aggressive sex, I think it is not normalized.
I think aggressive pornography is fine as long as:
A) Women involved are consenting in the porn
B) Men and/or women do not act aggressively without consent of the other partner
C) Aggressive sex is not expected of all women or men
The bottom line for couples or people having sex is that it needs to be consensual, no matter what act is happening, aggressive or not. Also, if there is a couple that is completely compatible but one partner wishes to be aggressive often during sex and the other doesn't: that is a recipe for disaster. A huge aspect of a relationship is to be sexually compatible. If someone isn't receiving the satisfaction they want or they are being pushed too far, they aren't going to trust or like the other person as much. There is no point being in a relationship like that.
Anyways. Those are my two cents... five cents. RIP penny, eh?
A common thread of thought is that pornography causes aggression towards women, primarily.
Let's look at the facts: in many pornographic videos women are humiliated, dominated, put in bondage, fucked against their will and seem to enjoy it.
If women consent to these acts with understanding of the consequences of being filmed, identified and are aware of what acts will occur, I don't see any issue here with women's rights and whatnot. The only time this is a little iffy is when women enter pornography to be tricked into doing more than they bargained, which does occur according to a few documentaries I have watched. As long as the words of the women involved are respected and heard, there should be no problem. If halfway through a video the woman says "stop" this should also be respected. These are all no-brainers. But if what we do in the bedroom is private and nobody else gets a say, it being filmed shouldn't be an issue if the woman is consenting.
The second issue brought up with this violent pornography is whether or not it affects society. My opinion is that it does. But not in the way that is first recognized. It is not like people are tied to trees everywhere with people dressed up like cops fucking them. Not all porns actually happen like exactly what they are. That is the actual problem. Men and women get the idea that pornography is a reality. Especially if they begin watching porn before having sex. Men expect women to be thin with big boobs, removed labia, hairless everywhere, be willing to do anal, oral, be dominated, etc. Women expect men to be hung, fit, strong, dominating, etc.
That is the only problem that I see arising. But it is not coming from nowhere. The hair shaving for both men and women is a pain in the ass, and pretty much unnecessary. I read a statistic that only about 1/5 of young people are shaved. So it is not necessarily as common as seen in porn.
But the expected roles and acts for both men and women to commit, honestly, that's for couples to decide on. Sex between two people can be violent, can be passionate, I don't see pornography translating to a man's brain to think it is completely okay to tie up, choke and call a girl a "slut" on the first time. Unless that is what they both say they want on their first time having sex together, then why not.
I feel like pornography does normalize aggression in sex to those exposed to it. To people not exposed to aggressive sex, I think it is not normalized.
I think aggressive pornography is fine as long as:
A) Women involved are consenting in the porn
B) Men and/or women do not act aggressively without consent of the other partner
C) Aggressive sex is not expected of all women or men
The bottom line for couples or people having sex is that it needs to be consensual, no matter what act is happening, aggressive or not. Also, if there is a couple that is completely compatible but one partner wishes to be aggressive often during sex and the other doesn't: that is a recipe for disaster. A huge aspect of a relationship is to be sexually compatible. If someone isn't receiving the satisfaction they want or they are being pushed too far, they aren't going to trust or like the other person as much. There is no point being in a relationship like that.
Anyways. Those are my two cents... five cents. RIP penny, eh?
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